A quick rant, and a little of my nerd side coming out in the title.
I had a relative tell me that he was unable to find Christian friends where he lived, and was willing to drive to find a church to find new Christians to socialize with. Ok, sounds pretty normal. I can even imagine myself saying the same thing about 6 months ago.
My problem is in his description of the "non-Christian" people he works with. He described them as "far from Christian as possible." He went on to explain that they would drink, look at other women, cuss, etc. He wasn't looking for someone Christian, he was looking for someone who shared the same morals.
So when did Christianity become associated with having good morals and being an ethical person? Yes, I know there are some very moral, ethical Christians; and some of the Christians I know are some of the nicest people I know. But that's not because they're Christians. That's because they're good people. I believe this is a backwards assumption. I believe they are Christian because they are moral, not moral because they are Christian. It just works out that many of Jesus's teachings were on subjects that moral people will agree with.
My thinking is that we try to lump people in to groups to make it easier to get to know them. It's the same idea as racism. It's easier to see someone's views as Christian and base your opinion on that label than to really get to know them. If you use the label Christian, you're already making assumptions. They are against abortion. They are against homosexuality. They are against drinking (some denominations).
Labeling someone as an atheist does the same thing. The assumption is that they are immoral, promiscuous, drug-using adulterers. I only know two atheists personally. Either of them would go out of their way to help a neighbor. They've both been married to the same woman for decades. I've never seen either drink, do drugs, or talk badly about another person. They certainly don't fit the normal perception of an atheist. But I believe they fit the true definition – one who just doesn't believe in a god. In fact, I've never seen either even bring up religion. They just seem to accept others beliefs and go on from there; unlike Christians following the "Great Commission" who feel they must force their beliefs on others.
To me this is no different than labeling a Mexican a "wetback". (My apologies to anybody with Mexican roots. I'm using this as an example, not as an expression of my views.) The view is that of a lazy person who is just in this country to take work away from Americans. Again, faulty assumption.
I understand wanting to find people to associate with. And I understand that you want those friends to have similar views. But using a term to group yourself with them only makes you guilty of not being willing to truly get to know them. All you do is use a superficial label and assumptions.
And yes, this was a rant. Once I start writing I have trouble stopping